Just For Today

June 19th, 2007 by f-afrianty

Decide to be happy today, to live with what is yours - your family, your business, your job, your luck. If you can’t have what you like maybe you can like what you have

Just for today, be kind, cheerful, agreeable, responsive, caring and understanding.

Be your best, dress your best, talk softly, look for the bright side of things.

Praise people for what they do and don’t critizise them for what they cannot do

If someone does something stupid, forgive and forget, after all, it’s just for one day.

Who knows, it might turn out to be a nice day

You’ve Got to Find What You Love

March 20th, 2007 by f-afrianty

2 Stories taken from CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, Steve Jobs delivered on June 12, 2005.

Story about love and loss.

I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn’t know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple’s current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been fired from Apple. It awful tasted medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.

Story about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn’t even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor’s code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you’d have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I’m fine now.

This was the closest I’ve been to facing death, and I hope it’s the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960’s, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

in-ter-jec-tion

November 3rd, 2006 by f-afrianty

“Interjection”….1) question, remark or other expression that is interjected…
2) Grammar word or phrase expressing strong emotion such as anger, fear, or suprise, or calling attention to what follows, but having no grammatical connection with the rest of sentence, ex: “say”, “oh”, darn it”, “what”

…Interjection buat gue bisa diartikan sbg “rejectness”…or penolakan…

Naluri dasar setiap manusia adalah perasaan dicintai…, diinginkan, dan dihargai…dan bila perasaan seseorang dimulai dari cinta…seiring berjalannya waktu…bisa berkembang menjadi tidak diingini.., tidak dihargai, dan tidak dicintai…

Selama proses terjadi nya “interjection”…dua org yg berbeda culture, paradigma, dan harapan dipertemukan untuk “menyamakan” pola perasaan, pikiran dan keinginan…,sehingga harapan2 dari kedua org tersebut terakomodir, dan tidak ada yg menganngap dirinya “di/ter tolak”….

Pada dasarnya memahami org lain dan menerima perbedaan adalah pekerjaan yg sama sulitnya dengan keharusan kita untuk “mencintai”, “memahami”, dan “menghormati” tanpa praduga…

Justru yg terlihat adalah rasa ingin “didahulukan”…., “dimengerti”, “dihargai” dan “dicintai”….

….padahal, jika kita ingin dihormati, diingini, dan dicintai…kita sbg org yg pertama yg harus memberikan itu semua…

Maaf

October 19th, 2006 by f-afrianty

5 hari menjelang Idul Fitri 1 Syawal 1427 H, email…, sms permohonan maaf dan ucapan Idul Fitri mulai berdatangan.

Ada yang disampaikan melalui humor yang menggelitik…, ada juga yg kirim pake bahasa resmi khas birokrat hehe…, ada juga yg standart “Minal Aidin Wal Faizin, Mohon Maaf Lahir & Bathin..

Walau terasa sedikit ‘euphoria’, tapi karena disampaikan pada momen yang tepat, mudah2an bukan basa basi..

Makna yg terkandung dalam kata “maaf” sangat dalam…saking dalemnya, kita bisa membedakan, mana perminÞaan maaf yg tulus, dan mana yg basa basi.

Memaafkan org lain saja terasa sulit, memaafkan diri sendir akan terasa jauh lebih sulit. Banyak org menghabiskan seluruh hidupnya dengan menghukum diri mereka sendiri dengan cara makan yg berlebihan, atau malah ngak makan sama sekali…ada juga yg minum sampe lupa diri, ada juga yg secara sistematis memutuskan hubungan, ada juga yg hidup miskin dan sakit-sakitan…

Yuk sama-sama bersihkan hati, sucikan diri, dengan niat yg tulus dan ikhlas, mari kita memaafkan kesalahan kita selama satu tahun terakhir…pun juga kesalahan org lain, mumpung kita masih diberi kesempatan untuk hidup dan memberikan manfaat bagi org lain…

“Selamat Hari Raya Idul Fitri 1 Syawal 1427 H, Taqobalallahu Mina Waminkum, Minal Aidin Walfaidzin…”

From Zero to Hero

October 15th, 2006 by f-afrianty

Mungkin anda mengenal nama Muhammad Yunus, peraih Nobel Prize utk katagori "Perdamaian" yg berasal dari Bangladesh..ngak nyangka aja.., gue pikir dia dari Indonesia.., karena namanya yang sangat Indonesia.

Apa yg dia perbuat dan lakukan untuk kaum miskin terutama perempuan di Bangladesh sangat mengagumkan …Nobel Peace Price to Bangladesh’s Muhammad Yunus, terlebih negara tersebut masuk kedalam katagori salah satu negara miskin di dunia (kalo dibandingin sama Indonesia sih..)

Kurang lebih 25 tahun dia bekerja menyalurkan Kredit Usaha Kecil tanpa agunnan kepada masyarakat miskin di Bangladesh, dan hingga hari ini…, melalui Grameen Bank, telah tersalur kredit senilai 4.5 milliar dollar A.S, dan berhasil mengurangi kemiskinan di lebih dari 46.000 desa…

Kapan ya salah satu dari "Indonesian" bisa berbuat seperti yg Pak Yunus lakukan ..:)?

The Distance We Keep

September 17th, 2006 by f-afrianty

Consider our 20th century lifestyle - how we secure ourselves againts unwelcome personal invasion. Many of us live in high rise apartemenst where we meet the neighbours once a month in the lobby. Others reside in the suburb, surrounded by high fences and security system. We have private telephone numbers and guard dogs at the gate. We consciously eliminate the possibility of any unhappy ones too.

We spend three hours a day in traffic jams - isolated. We talk to computers. We don’t go to see people; we send faxes.

Shopping malls have replaced the corner store. TV dinners have replaced their family dinner - or we simply eat at the refrigerator.

When we go to public places, we take our blank stares. Blank stares are standart equipment for distancing yourself in elevators, subway, trains and supermakets. The blank look says, “I don’t know you, there’s nothing happening in my head, don’t talk to me ’cause you might be a weirdo.”

We watch four hours television a day - alone. No matter if there are others in the room, our concern is with the TV. We have video recorders to help us out - if there’s nothing on the airwaves, we can still get an electronic fix.

Is all that bad? No. It is not necessarily bad. We live in exciting (and very convinient) times, but we need to understand what is happening. There are enormous pressures puling us away from people. If you want personal contact these days, YOU HAVE TO MAKE AN EFFORT.

A sweet life is a shared experiences. Our greatest joy, our most precious moments, our toughest challange and our most loving times are mostly shared with people. Our greatest learning experiences come from being with people

To have a memorable stay on this planet we must be prepared to knock down some barriers - make a special effort to meet, be with, get close to people.

We have to work at spending time with people, and make it a priority. The tide of technology always tugs us in the opposite direction.

“Making Friends”
Andrew Matthews

Setelah 10 Tahun…

September 11th, 2006 by f-afrianty

Karena tuntutan pekerjaan yg mengharuskan gue keluar kota, alhasil setiap bulan praktis hanya dua minggu gue ada di Jakarta, selebihnya bisa jadi gue ada di Surabaya atau Semarang seperti hari ini…kadang cape juga sih.., tp emang basicnya gue seneng travelling.., ya anggap aja bonus bisa keliling kota gratis hehe..

Yg pengen gue critain bukan hari ini gue ada di Semarang…tp perjalanan gue ke Malang (kota tempat gue beresin S1 gue selama 3.5 tahun) yg seperti ‘menarik’ gue ke masa2 10 tahun lalu saat gue baru lulus kuliah.., dan siap2 nyari kerja di Jakarta

Kota nya banyak banget berubah…, jalan2 yang tadi nya terasa longar dan lebar, sekarang terlihat kecil dan padat.., belum lagi pas gue main2 ke kampus..tambah kaget lagi…area kampus yg dulunya lengang, sekarang dipadati kos2an…, bank, tempat makan dan fotocopy.., laundry dan wartel …hmmm, padet deh.., kmana Malang yg dulu ya ?

Oh iya…gue juga sempet mampir di Toko Oen Malang. ‘Toko Oen’ sendiri sudah bercokol di tempat itu sejak 1930. Pada halaman pertama menu tertulis: "In de gordel van smaragd, Toko Oen is het enige juiste adres in de sfeer en smaak van Tempo Doeloe." (Di tengah untaian zamrut khatulistiwa, TokoOen adalah satu-satunya alamat yang tepat untuk suasana dan citarasa Tempo Doeloe). Bangunan ‘Toko Oen’ sendiri masih merupakan a colonial landmark bagi Malang yang kaya dengan bangunan kolonial asli, belum dipugar. Ia mengingatkan saya pada ‘Baltic’ di Jalan Braga, Bandung, yang juga merupakan ice cream parlour & pattiserie peninggalan zaman voor de oorlog. ‘Toko Oen’ juga bisa dijumpai di Semarang dan beberapa kota lain. Dulunya mereka merupakan cabang dari lembaga usaha yang sama, tetapi sekarang sudah berbeda kepemilikan. Banyak wisatawan lansia dari Belanda yang sengaja datang kembali ke Toko Oen. Pesanan yang paling populer adalah es krim dan bistik (Referensi)

Sayang nya ngak ada foto nya nih…, yg ada justru foto diri gue yg dengan manis nya nangkring di depan tiang bendera kampus.., yg gue inget banget waktu ospek gue ikutan berpanas2 dihukum sama senior disuruh berdiri dengan satu kaki di depan tiang bendera itu hihi…, dulu sih sedih banget..tp pas liat halaman kampus kemaren, gue malah ngerasa lucu.., sedih, juga kangen…

Anyway…, sesaat kembali ke masa lalu..ternyata menyadarkan gue untuk selalu bersyukur…karena ngak gampang juga memperjuangkan hidup gue sampe hari ini dimana banyak org menganggap bahwa gue sudah sampai di ‘titik keberhasilan’ yang selama ini banyak diidamkan org..

10 tahun yg lalu..gue cuma fresh graduate yg bingung…, mau kemana dan mau ngapain…

Tapi…, setelah 10 tahun juga…, gue bisa melihat.., apa yg sudah gue lakukan dengan baik, dan apa yg masih harus gue perbaiki…

hEcTic

September 6th, 2006 by f-afrianty

My live recently….HECTIC!!!

hectic ramai sekali, ribut, tidak tenang

Grrrrrrrhhhhhh !!!

The Ancient Art of Self-Leadership

August 11th, 2006 by f-afrianty

Let’s continue the symbolic fable that been written in my previous noted taken from the fascinating adventure into the realms of personal development "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari". I’ll share another chapter discussed the Self-Leadership, You will recall that as the fable continue with "Sumo Wrestler"    The sumo wrestler represent a very important element in the life-changing system of the Sages of Sivana. You’ll introduce with the "Kaizen" philosophy. This Japanese world means constant and never ending improvement..

How Kaizen concept enrich the lives of the sages?
Success on the outside begins with success on the inside. If you really want to improve your outer world, whether this means your health, your relationship, or your finance, you must first improve your inner world. The most effective way to do this is through the practice of contonous self-improvement.

When we speak of improving your inner world, I am simply speeking of self-improvement and personal expansion and it is the best thing you can do for yourself. When you have taken the time to build a strong character full of dicipline, energy, power and optimism, you can have anything and do anything you want in outer world.

When you have cultivated a deep sense of faith in your abilities and an indomitable spirit, nothing can stop you from succeeding in all your pursuits and living with great rewards.

There’s a trilogy of your human endoments. To improve your mind without the cultivation of your physical gifts would be a very hollow victory. Elevating your mind and body to their highest level without nurturing your soul would leave you feeling very empty and unfulfilled. But when you dedicated your energies to unlocking the full potential of all three of your human endowments, you will test the divine ectasy of an enlightened life.

Topik Petang antv: Kader apa Keder?

August 8th, 2006 by f-afrianty

Menyimak dialog mengenai Calon Gubernur Banten dng bintang tamu Marissa Haque di "Topik Petang" antv sore ini, bikin gue kaget, malu sekaligus bt….

Jarang loh gue sampe "terlibat" secara emosi sama topik and bintang tamu yg jadi pembicara…terakhir bt sama acara tv…pas liat Rhoma Irama menghujat Inul hihi…

Dialog yg dipandu pembaca berita antv (siapa ya namanya.., kok gue lupa) dng Marissa Haque sebenernya menarik, selama diskusi itu dijawab dng komentar2 yg positif.

Si Mbak M ini kan awalnya dicalonkan jd bupati oleh PDI P..trus gagal, dan sekarang dicalonkan PK jadi balon gubernur….bla bla…tp timbul konflik krn yg nyalonin si mbak ini kan bkn partainya langsung, malah partai lain..

Wawancara ini dimaksudkan untuk klarifikasi langsung, apakah si mbak ini tetep ngelanjutin "perjuangannya", pdhl partainya sendiri udh ngak ngedukung…

Alih2 mau klarifikasi, yg terjadi malah "diskusi yg ngak cerdas". Masalahnya bukan di pembaca berita yg ngak menyodorkan pertanyaan2 akurat…good kok announcernya…yg bikin gue bt..cara si mbak m menjawab pertanyaan..

Ini dia cuplikannya:
+ assalamualaikum mbak m..
- waalaikum salam…merdeka, allahu akbar (?!?..)

+ apa tanggapan anda trhdp recana DPR utk me-recall anda dr keanggotaan DPR sehubungan rencana pencalonan diri menjadi Gub Banten..?
- (dng nada agak ngambek) anda sdh tau kan jwbnnya knp…kmrn mbak jg hadir kan di acara…..saya ingat mbak pake kalung hitam, dan rambutnya agak keluar..bla bla..
+ ya mbak, tp kita semua ingin mengetahui lngsung tanggapan dr mbak mengenai rencana tsb..
- (di jwb cukup formal)

+ apa reaksi anda trhdp penolakan PDIP untuk mencalonkan anda menjadi Gub?
- (mukanya terlihat bosan)…penting ngak sih pertanyaan itu saya jawab, dan coba anda memberikan pertanyaan yg cerdas…bla bla..

+ apa yg akan anda lakukan jika PDIP tdk merestui pencalonan diri anda…
- saya akan menemui Ibu Mega…mencium tangannya, dan mencium pipi kanannya, dan saya akan bilang bhw saya akan terus berjuang…krn saya sedang berjihad….haha serem ya kata2 saya (?!?!..)

…Selebihnya, wawancara itu lebih dipergunakan untuk menunjukan kekesalan seorang Marissa Haque..dan sebagai ajang untuk mengintimidasi pewawancara jika pertanyaannya dianggap kurang cerdas (menurut mbak m ya…), dan hingga akhir wawancara, terlihat betapa seorang kader politik (kalo bs dianggap bgt) blm mampu menunjukan sikap yg positif saat menghadapi pertanyaan yg membutuhkan jawaban2 arif ..

Bagaimana seseorang yg ingin mencalonkan diri menjadi pemimpin, terlihat terganggu dng pertanyaan2 yg diajukan…padahal, jika ia terpilih (kalo dipilih) menjadi Bupati, Gubernur atau apapun itu, dia hrs menunjukan sikap hormat, mengayomi, menenangkan…dan cerdas membahas semua masalah publik, tanpa terlihat lelah dan terganggu..

Yg akan dia hadapi sbg pemimpin bukan cuma masalah korupsi, tp beribu masalah yg hrs dihadapi dng kecerdasan emosional tingkat tinggi…

…gue malah ‘keder’ kalo punya pemimpin kaya mbak m ini…ngambekan…

dan ternyata ini bukan kejadian pertama…, setelah sebelumnya media cetak juga mewawancarai mbak m ini dimana saat si mbak ini menjawab pertanyaan selalu dijawab dng nada emosi…"Sehari Jadi Anggota DPR, Marissa Terpancing Emosi"